Protests are going on across the nation following the ballot initiatives in three states that banned same sex marriage. These protesters are saying it is a civil rights issue while counter protesters are saying it is a moral issue.
I don't understand people who have a problem with same sex marriage. Marriage isn't a christian ceremony. People all over the world get married every day. No one argues that if you aren't a christian, your marriage doesn't count. In fact, marriage isn't even religious. Plenty of people get married every day and don't do it in a religious building. They have a judge or another secular person perform their marriage and no one tells these people that their marriage doesn't count. In fact, in Colorado you don't need a witness or someone to perform the ceremony. All you need to do is get a license, sign it, and turn it in.
So how can we say that two men or women whom love each other shouldn't be allowed to get married?
The arguement is usually that same sex marriage somehow hurts the sanctity of marriage, but what does that even mean?
Sanctity is defined in Merriam Webster as:
1: holiness of life and character : godliness
2: the quality or state of being holy or sacred
So, sanctity is just another way to say that the marriage is religious and god doesnt like same sex marriage. Again, i am going to have to call shenanigans. You can get married without a religious figure performing the ceremony. You can get married in a church, at the park, at a banquet hall, in your apartment or at prison. The State of Colorado, which licenses marriages, does not require a religious ceremony. So how can we really say it threatens the sanctity of marriage when marriage isnt even sacred to begin with.
I dont mean to suggest that marriage cannot be sacred to you. Your marriage might be very sacred. You may have gotten married with a priest or a rabbi. You may have listened to the vows, taken straight from your holy book, and really really meant everything you said about sickness and health. And if you did, there is nothing wrong with that. However, that doesn't mean that two people getting married in a judges chambers who wrote their own vows and don't believe in god are somehow less married.
As my pal Doc wrote, "The same also applies if you're getting married for less-than-holy reasons, like getting knocked up, or are just congenitally clueless and think it'd be cool to get married this week and divorced the next, and yet you don't see Christian organizations protesting outside courthouses to prevent stupid, loveless marriages, do you?"
It comes down to the fact that people against same sex marriage just don't like homosexuality. That is it. There is no rational argument against it. Or, if there is, no one has offered it up.
Same sex marriage is a civil rights issue like segregation and women's suffrage, and it is about time that we give homosexual couples the right to get married.
As Q says, isnt it about time we all had the right to suffer needlessly?